Ask Dr. P

The last round of the boxing bout seemed to last forever. I thought it would never come to an end. My best effort got me a silver medal but the blows I endured were worth much more than that. The three rounds of three minutes required over 6 months training, exercise, endurance runs and weight loss. It unbelievable the amount of training nine minutes in the ring required. In boxing, it really doesn’t matter how many times you get knocked down, what matters is getting back up again. Continue reading →

Would you prefer to marry someone you definitely know isn’t right for you and later get a divorce, or break up the relationship before marriage? Regardless of how hard it may be, I know which one I would prefer, do you? The effect of a divorce can be enormous, especially when there are kids involved. Continue reading →

Why do women cry and men get angry all the time? Cars have dashboards while other pieces of equipment have indicators that tell the user something about an equipment. They show the status of a device, give instructions or warn of impending danger. These indicators draw the user’s attention to the situation, exceptthe user intentional decides to ignore them. The same analogy can be applied to human beings. Babies communicate by crying especially when they cannot talk. Continue reading →

Is there a right time or age to get married? How do I know when the time is right? These are some of the questions a number of people may be asking, men and women alike. A straight answer could be, “if you’re asking these questions then you are not ready to get married!” While there may be some truth in that response but it may not always be the case.

Getting married is a very big step to take, probably the biggest and most important decision you’ll ever take. More often than not, the gravity of the decision causes people to have cold feet especially if it’s the first time. Also, the alleged opinions and accounts of awful marriages paint an ugly picture of what marriage shouldn’t be. Continue reading →

Digital photography has become my passion and in recent years an income stream which has given me the privilege of covering lots of weddings. Apart from the excitements and thrills i get from each wedding, I get to listen to wedding sermons which often focuses on the keys to having a successful marriage.

Recently, a sermon delivered at one of my engagements struck a chord. It focused on the keys to a successful marriage which brought into view the reality of marriage in simplicity and understanding. I’m sure they would be of interest to you! Here are the keys in my own words. Continue reading →

Can somebody please talk me through this. Would someone be kind enough to explain to me what exactly has gone wrong with me. Could it be I’m losing my mind? Oh! you guess as much; ok, why not tell me more about me. Why not provide answers to my teeming whys. Why, why, why, and why I yelled ! Why was I born into this family, why was I born this gender, why do I have this colour, why was I born on this continent, this particular nation and this tribe? Continue reading →

At different stages in our journey through life we  face pressures  from parents, peers, work or family. How do you deal with peer pressure? Our ability to deal with peer pressure depends on our values, character, vision and life ambitions.

While parents have the privilege to guide and steer their children in the way they should go, the executive decision ultimately lies with the individual. Continue reading →

What should be the norm? Should the man always have to ask the woman out all the time or can a woman seize the initiative and ask the man out. Should a woman propose marriage to a man? In holy matrimony are there laid out rules on who should start the rumble in the jungle when the lights are out? Continue reading →

How many times have you heard people say that sexual compatibility is an important factor to consider before getting hitched? I believe every aspiring spouse would like to have mind blowing sex in marriage. Rather than trusting God and keeping themselves pure and chaste they submit to test driving each other to guarantee compatibility. Obviously not every test driven car ends up in the drive way of the driver. Putting one and two together, if I can test drive one car, enjoy the comfort without any obligation to buy, why can’t I enjoy the same experience with different models, shapes, sizes and color. Continue reading →

Walking in the Spirit means bearing fruits of the Holy Spirit. The fruit of the Spirit are clearly spelled out in the above scripture and it will be pertinent for us to study each fruit vis-a-vis their antonyms so we may have a better understanding. This is the final part of a three-part study series on the fruit of the spirit. Continue reading →