How To Find The Right Partner


I don’t know if its getting older or getting closer to the Lord that helps clear your understanding about relationships and doing things Gods’ way. Like many people before me the Hollywood formula of finding the right partner was all I knew, trial and error but it leaves so much damage when it goes wrong.

Hollywood’s formula

  1. Find the right person
  2. Fall in Love
  3. Fix your hopes and dreams on this person for your future fulfilment
  4. If failure occurs, repeat steps 1, 2, 3

God’s formula

  1. Become the right person

    Instead of looking for the right person, become the right person. Ephesians 5 tells us to be imitators of God by reflecting the way He loves us.Ephesians 5:1-21Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;  2And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.   – King James Version

  2. Walk in love

    Instead of falling in love, walk in love. Walk in love means something much deeper than taking long strolls on the beach or wandering hand-in-hand through the mall. In fact, walking in love means that we love others in exactly the same way that Christ loved us.

    How did Christ love us? The phrase supplies that answer: He gave himself up for you. So, here’s the deeper application: Walking in love is about sacrificial commitment.

  3. Fix your hope on God and seek to please Him through this relationship

    Instead of fixing your hopes and dreams on another person, fix your hopes on God and seek to please Him through this relationship. “You are not the most important person in my life-Christ is. And because Christ is the most important person in my life, I’m going to treat you even better than I could treat you if you were the most important person in my life.

    Christ will help me love you more than I could ever love you in my own strength alone.

  4. If failure occurs, repeat steps 1, 2, 3

Excerpt taken from:

Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships: God’s Prescription for Enhancing Your Love Life

Many couples struggle to have a meaningful relationship and seem clueless when it comes to making it last. Yet they crave a quality love life that goes beyond physical attraction. They wonder if relationships really can work. And if so, how? Is it possible to enjoy love, sex, and a lasting relationship in the culture and times in which we live?

Chip Ingram examines why many relationships fail and highlights the principles couples need for breaking the trend. Whether single or single again, those who have heard Chip’s teaching and radio ministry have reported significant help as a result of their exposure to these principles from God’s Word.


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