Author: Pele Odiase

How many times have you heard people say that sexual compatibility is an important factor to consider before getting hitched? I believe every aspiring spouse would like to have mind blowing sex in marriage. Instead than trusting God and keeping themselves pure and chaste, they submit to test driving each other to guarantee compatibility. Obviously not every test driven car ends up in the drive way of the driver. Putting one and two together, if I can test drive one car, enjoy the comfort without any obligation to buy, why can’t I enjoy the same experience with different models, shapes,…

It is important that we do all that we can to encourage the faith walk of our children. We cannot walk that walk for them, but we can certainly cheer them along and help to remove stumbling blocks. There are many ways in which we can do this, but I would like to mention just five ways parents, guardians, relatives and adults in general can help children relate to their heavenly father.

Did you ever tell yourself you wanted to get married at a certain age or you wanted to have your kids before your thirties? Perhaps you’ve also said you wanted a younger or older wife or husband. Most times numbers don’t add up in matters like this. Although I do not see anything wrong in having preferences, if things turn out the way you wanted, great! But you shouldn’t make things happen the way you want them to at all cost. I fell into that trap once and getting out was dreadful and a horrendous dating experience.

Marriage can reveal a lot of things about who we are and who our spouses really are too. The dating period is over and if there was any pretence, your true self is now manifested in the flesh. It is not surprising that after a while you begin to think you married the wrong person. Most of the time, this thought arises as a result of differences in opinions, philosophy, ideology, faith, habits and sometimes interests. For the genuine, it would take time and mutual compromises to adjust in marriage and maintain harmony in the relationship. I was presented with…

Someone asked if Christianity and clubbing go together. What do you think? Is is OK for a Christian to go clubbing, if yes, are there any no go areas and if no why not? Some people associate clubbing with binge drinking, one night stands, violence and public nudity while there are those that feel it just a time to socialise and move the feet.

Hand in hand they walked in the garden in gentle strides enjoying the cool of the day. The sounds of whistling birds and waters flowing downstream always made the evening promenade pleasant. But wait a minute, the man and his wife haven’t got any clothes on and it didn’t seem to bother them. They loved each other and discovering that she was the bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh was a divine revelation.

A virgin is a woman who still has her hymen intact which mean she hasn’t had sexual intercourse with any man. I don’t think having oral sex, kissing, romance and the likes without intercourse deflowers a woman even though there are people that think it does. However, this isn’t a license to indulge in sexual acts outside the confines of marriage ,remember you have already guilty of sin by thinking of it in your heart. And as a man thinks so is he.

One phrase that spoke volumes to me was spoken by Bishop T.D. Jakes. He said in his book He-Motions: Even Strong Men Struggle “Every boy needs a father, and a man does too”. It gave me the opportunity to reflect and think about my childhood, growing up into life, finding my path in life, discerning God’s plan for me, and finding my identity and significance. The challenges of being a man is high, being a man of God requires more of the man. Every boy needs a father, and a man does too – TD Jakes Not often do you…

In the post , we examined two factors to consider when building a dynamic relationship. Being of like-minded in faith is very crucial for the believer. Both parties need to be singing the same song from the same hymn sheet otherwise there is bound to be disharmony. Being unequally yoked isn’t limited to marrying to someone outside your faith; You can be unequally yoked even if both of your are of the same faith.

This is a follow up to . Ideally the man should do the finding while the girl should position herself where she can be found. You seem to have found the girl, established contact and agreed to go out on a date, and the question may arise, “what should you be looking out for in the girl?”. Beauty and external body endowments most probably were the first things that attracted you to her but there is more to it that meets the eye.